What’s your relationship with MaDomme Bliss, The Church of Rope, Jiffy Kink, and the Legally Bound Group?

MxBliss is a community advocate, clergy person, and kink/BDSM/consent educator. She is also a lawyer and the president of the Legally Bound Group (LBG). The LBG provides legally-informed business consulting services to kink-positive business and the adult entertainment industry. LBG also provides estate planning services to Oregon residents with a focus on non-traditional families.

MxBliss produces the Jiffy Kink events and co-produces Friction events. While private events, both are open to the adult public and hosted at private venues. While these events maintain a ban list for the protection of other attendees, these events are available broadly and both include education, performance art, and community building.

MaDomme Bliss is the business persona and consulting/coaching services alter of MxBliss. MaDomme Bliss and the services she provides exist so MxBliss can pay her personal bills and dedicate time and donate funds to community education. Yes, MaDomme Bliss, MxBliss, SoftServe, The Supreme Leader, Daddy’s Little Daddy, and Daddy Bliss are all one person, but she keeps these identities distinct in terms of how she engages with the world. This is just one of the reasons why kink and BDSM communities are so awesome, because we can be who and what we need to be to show up better for our people and ourselves.

Are you a proDomme (professional dominant)?

As you can see from the Menu of Services HERE, I offer rope experiences (with or without power exchange) as well as Dominance Coaching. I hope clients will find the services I offer add value to their lives and bring joy, wonder, and an opportunity to learn. /grow.

And yes, if client’s request it, power exchange, degradation, humiliation, adoration, or other forms of Dominance, may be invoked and integrated into the services but I don’t bring that energy without negotiation (as I believe power exchange is best when negotiated between consenting adults).

Isn’t sex work illegal?

Sadly, it is. I could wax on and on about why sex work should not only be decriminalized but also regulated. Please note, however, I do not offer sex or sexual services. If you ask for such services you will disqualified as a client and I may block you. I am familiar with the solicitation laws in the jurisdictions where I offer services and won’t violate those laws. But, I will continue to advocate to decriminalize sex work and BDSM through NCSF.

Who do you work with?

Bottom line, I will work with anyone who my gut and due diligence tells me is safe. I will check references, do research, and make sure I know enough about any client before engaging with them.

I prioritize (from a scheduling perspective) reoccurring (weekly, biweekly, or monthly) clients. I also prioritize (and provide discounts for) underrepresented BIPOC, Trans, and persons with disabilities. I love working with all body types as I believe any body that wants to be in rope, should be.

Why should I have to pay for you to play with me? Aren’t you a lifestyle dominant?

I thought about this question a lot. Frankly, I was worried that making BDSM my profession would make this part of my life less satisfying for me. But, the demand for my Topping far exceeds the time I have available, especially when working a full-time job, running a private practice, and continuing my learning as a rope/performance artist. So, I thought if I could work with paying clients doing something I love, I could pay my bills AND allocate time/space for my continuing education and to run the nonprofit. Through education, I hope there will be a multiplier of folks with knowledge and skill to play safer and more joyfully.

In terms of other opportunities to engage with me, I frequently offer rope and impact tastings for FemDom or BDSM events I support. I frequently donate time and resources to community- and con- based education space so that we can create a wider universe of skilled rope Tops, bottoms, and self-tiers with the hope that everybody that wants to be in rope, can be. For personal play, I strongly prioritize existing/past partners, friends, and people who I see exhibiting extraordinary kindness.

I’m worried about being outed. What are doing to protect my privacy and what steps can I take to protect my privacy?

Bliss takes privacy and the risk of outing seriously. Please review the privacy policy and ask questions about what safeguards I have in place.

What if I am brand new to all this and don’t know how to answer your questions?

Don’t worry. New is great and does not preclude our working together. Just say so in the intake. I can use other means to complete my due diligence and we will spend more time talking about consent, negotiation, and various options. I am excited to help bottoms/submissives learn to self advocate and keep themselves safer.